Anger or Irritability
What does anger or irritability look like for your kid?
Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage. Some kids lose their cool by kicking, screaming, or saying hurtful things. Giving your child space when they might be experiencing a meltdown can help them to learn how they might be able to manage their emotions more easily next time, but also make sure you're able to draw the line between manifesting your emotions and acting out violently.
Actions to start a conversation
Ask your kid gently if they'll tell you what's bothering them. Make sure to express genuine curiosity about their behavior. Try not to ask in a moment of frustration — instead, try to say kindly, "I care about you and I can tell that something is making you angry. I'd really like to know what it is."
Actions to do while listening
Try not to get defensive or take what they say personally. It's important to remain focused on listening rather than reacting to what they might say while upset. Be open about apologizing if they express frustration with something you've done — saying "I'm sorry" can do a lot to build trust with your kid. No matter what, always express gratitude that your kid has shared what they're feeling.
Actions to understand
Ask if there's something in particular that has caused your kid to feel angry or irritable. It can be helpful to ask how long they've felt angry. You might follow up by asking if your kid has a sense for what might help them feel better.