Losing Someone
What does losing someone mean for your kid?
Losing someone you love is difficult for everyone. Kids might experience loss at home, through family, or even at school. As a caregiver, you can't shield your kid from the grief they might experience-- but you can help them feel heard and safe. By allowing and encouraging your kid to express their feelings during this difficult time, you're helping them build healthy coping skills for life.
Actions to start a conversation
Ask your kid how they're feeling about the loss. If they're struggling to talk about it, acknowledge that "it's hard to talk about losing someone" and ask them if there's something that's making it especially difficult to talk about the loss.
Actions to do while listening
Don't rush the conversation or be frightened if your kid starts to cry or becomes angry. Anger, frustration, and numbness are all responses that your kid might experience. Allow them to express themselves fully, then thank them for sharing how they're feeling with you.
Actions to understand
You can ask your kid who, if anyone, they feel comfortable talking to about the loss. Ask if there are people or situations that are especially hard to deal with because of the loss. On a lighter note, remind them that holding on to good, beautiful memories is also a way to keep that person or figure close to their heart. Follow up by asking if there's anything that would make them feel better.